What’s your Enneagram?
I just took a quiz to define my enneagram. What is that?, you ask.
Allow me to plagiarise, since, in fact, the very word enneagram is not recognized as a legitimate word in the English language, according to my word checker. (The accuracy of this is also unknown since the grammar guide marks this entire article with incongruities in the use of standard English language. Hmmm.)
The Enneagram (Ennea=9, Gram=Diagram) is simply a map for self-discovery and personal growth. The diagram describes the 9 basic personality types based upon their unique ways of relating to the world.
The Enneagram accurately and clearly describes why you think, feel and behave in particular ways based upon your core fears and core desires.
The power of the Enneagram is in its ability to harness and transform self-defeating behaviors into life-enhancing personal empowerment. The gift of the Enneagram is that through self-discovery, one can create and sustain meaningful and lasting relationships with others, God and themselves.
Enneagram Type Nine
THE PEACEFUL MEDIATOR
Discover the great things about Type 9s
Of all the Enneagram Types, 9s stand out for their easy going adaptable nature, cheerful disposition, and empathetic ability to understand the feelings and perspectives of others. Great listeners who are caring and attentive, they see value and dignity in each person. Their longing for harmony, ability to see all sides of an issue, and inclusive nature causes them to be bridge builders between people and differing points of views, reflecting the peace and oneness of God.
What drives a Type 9s to think, feel, and behave in particular ways?
THEIR CORE MOTIVATIONS
Being in conflict, tension, or discord; feeling shut out and overlooked; losing connection with others.
Having inner stability and peace of mind.
Sloth — remaining in an unrealistic and idealistic world in order to keep the peace, remain easy-going, and not be disturbed by your anger; falling asleep to your passions, abilities, desires, needs, and worth by merging with others.
“Your presence matters.”
Type Nines strive for peace of mind, environmental harmony and inner serenity. They want to preserve things as they are, to avoid conflicts and tension, to escape unpleasantness, and avoid demands being placed on them.
Type Nines avoid the spotlight as well as conflict, tension, or separation from others. They don’t want to feel out of connection or overlooked.They don’t like feelings of anger or being upset or disturbed, to have their habits or routines interrupted, to be emotionally uncomfortable, or forced to face unpleasant realities.
Overview of a Type 9s At Their Best And At Their Worst
Type Nines are easy going, non-judgmental, and patient people who long for harmony with others and in their environments. Able to see all points of view, they are natural peacemakers and agents of reconciliation who bring a sense of calm and empathy wherever they go.
But these seemingly relaxed people struggle internally in a world rife with conflict and things that threaten the comfort they crave. Believing it is their responsibility to ensure that people experience peace and that everyone is respected and heard, they manage the stress they feel by withdrawing or numbing their feelings, dreams and desires. They “go along to get along” to avoid the internal or external conflict they feel.
When trying to satisfy their longing for harmony, connection, and comfort apart from Christ, Type Nines can become conflict avoidant, indecisive, passive, easily overwhelmed and numb to their lives.
Internally, Type Nines struggle to believe that their voice and opinions matter and become self-forgetting and self-belittling. Focussing too much on others, they lose their identity, merging with the thoughts, feelings, and agendas of others to achieve a false harmony. They fall asleep to themselves, yet often have an internal frustration about being overlooked by others.
Their attempts for harmony eventually backfire in relationships when the people around them get frustrated by their passivity, stubbornness, unwillingness to be bothered, emotional unavailability, complacency, and passive-aggressive responses, resulting in the conflict they desperately want to avoid.
However, when a Nine’s heart is in line with the Gospel, they come awake to their convictions, feelings and passions, and believe that they matter and can make a difference in this world. From that place they also realize the true peace comes from entering into conflict not avoiding it, and they become more genuinely engaged with people and their own lives, able to bridge differences, bring people together, and achieve true harmony.
As a public educator, I have taken part in a multitude of personality evaluations over the years and deem these results congruent with previous tests.
That said, let me introduce to you Lisa, AKA Lady With the Cane, enneagram 9.
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